I am a couples counselor in Germany and I have been inspired by Esther's work for a long time. It brings such incredible value to listen to her podcasts, Ted Talks, youtube videos and all the other great formats she is offering. I used the "turning conflict into connection" seminar as a training for my work and of course I do use it for getting better in the relationship with my husband ;-) It is an excellent development that psychotherapists share lots of their wisdom to the public these days (in my perception Esther was one of the first who did!) thus making relationships in general a little bit better. I came across the "hidden dimensions" various times in Esther's work but in this seminar it became so much clearer with all the good examples. Also the chapter of "good apologies" is so helpful. Sometimes I wished I had known as much as I do now about relationships a few decades ago (I am 56 yo, working as a couples counselor since 2017). But the good news is that my job in HR for 15 years, my two adult kids and my 25-years marriage are a brilliant resource for what I am doing ;-)

I learnt about Ester thru a podcast, not hers. Husband and I learnt about our different conflict styles and we love the term Low intensity warefare, we remind each other it when we find ourselves in a bickering place. Overall we found the course easy to follow, informative and helpful.

I have an avoidant relationship with conflict. I love Esther Perel’s work and have both listened to her podcast and read her books. I felt that this course may give me insight into building a healthy relationship with conflict itself. I learned some of the main drives behind conflict. I learned strategies on how to deescalate situations. I learned to be an observer and identify the cyclical roles that define conflict within different relationships. I would like to amend how I show up by recognizing when it is a good time to take a step back and commit to talking later. I think I have chosen to stay in the conflict to prove my dedication, but a well placed détente can make the conversation more effective and keep it from spiraling into something it doesn’t need to be.

As a certified life coach with a niche in High Conflict divorce, coparenting, special needs parenting, and female empowerment plus my own lived experience with DV, it’s important to me to continue to heal and grow myself first and foremost so I can walk along others as they journey towards self love, security, and whole hearted living. The three underlying causes of conflict were taught so simply yet made a profound difference in the way I view conflict. As a person who takes flight and “stonewalls”, I now have more evolved language to explain “ I am overwhelmed, feeling attacked, and need an hour to process the information shared then respond in a way that’s protective of the relationship”. I care deeply and shut down so I don’t escalate the situation, not because I don’t care. Thank you for your heart of gold, Esther, and the work you do to heal the world one relationship at a time. 

A wonderful friend presented this learning opportunity course and I felt so compelled to explore this topic (I am also a huge fan of Perel). Over the years, I recognized that I had a knack for finding and dating addicts. In that, I became a different person. Evolving to present me: I realized that throughout the manipulation (on both sides), hurt and general survival in those tough years, I had learned several not-so-great methods of navigating emotions at a time of conflict. Through this course, I've learned that I am a Grade A-retaliator. Back then and even now, I feel justified to treat my partner the way that I feel. I understand it is not right and continue to learn every day. In this course, I hope to implement a reflection before I become reactive, taking accountability of my behalf impacts.

I have been struggling with my partner for years. Thank you for giving us the vocabulary of the fighting strategies. It has changed the conversations. You have been a resource through a hard time. I especially appreciate the convenience of the downloads and the flexibility of being about to progress through it at our own discretion. You are wonderful, thank you!

As a longtime fan of Esther, I wanted to go to the next level--to learn, not just listen. The workbook was extremely helpful as a tool to accompany the videos. The section on identifying the "hidden emotions" in conflict was invaluable! I was particularly struck by the realization that we are more likely to apologize to our partner than to show appreciation for them. That was an aha moment for me! I hope to use all of these lessons in my work as a journalist covering conflict--and in my own life. Thank you to Esther and her team for continuing to find new ways to help us make sense of ourselves and each other!

Amazing course , easy and short ! We keep thing simple ! Love it ! Thank you for this !

I needed some guidance to help couples during parenting sessions. I found that the child was not the problem but they were! and I needed some pointers to steer them towards resolving their issues.

Hello Esther, I must confess that each time I have a strong fight with my partner, I leave that space to try to understand better what is happening with your content. Either podcast, courses or website. I find peace listening to you, i quit blaming and star understanding where is my power, my freedom by choosing how to react, my neglect to really see what he's really feeling, and that special frame where we can de-escalate a fight. I'm learning to recognize it by connecting with myself. Thank yo so much for organizing such valuable content and for keep on working to amplify your experience. Thank you from the heart.

I’ve listened to Esther’s podcast and I trust what she has to say. Even in the first module I found painful realizations that will inevitably lead to better communication, conflict resolution, and relational repair in the future. I only hope more people will take interest and engage with the opportunity to grow.

A recent break up that ended after an argument brought me into your course. I wanted to see why the same arguments were coming up and try to see what my role and responsibility were in these arguments. The course opened my eyes to my fighting style, insecurities and reasons that we were repeating the same argument. I was fighting rather than expressing what I was FEELING. I feel that I have a much better handle on how to diffuse or at least take a break before reacting and how to express what I am feeling rather than attacking. Thank you so much for an excellent course.

Becoming better at addressing conflict in positive ways at home and at work is an ongoing goal. Learning to use the "space" between the trigger and the response as something each person can control was one of the concepts that caught my attention. Remembering we are free to change how we respond to conflict was a great reminder!

I took the course after a possibly relationship ending fight where I realized my partner and I seemed to never speak the same language. I learned so much from this course including that fights are never really about what you're fighting for in the moment! We've been trapped in a hopeless cycle of fights because neither of us ever dared ask the other directly for what we wanted or needed from them. The result was years of accumulated frustration, resentment, contempt, loneliness, etc. It may be too late to save my current/past relationship-- there only time will tell-- but the lessons from this course will serve me in EVERY relationship in my life now and moving forward. I can at least work on cleaning up my side of the street. Thank you, Esther, for all that you do. Keep them coming :)

I feel as humans we are so often eager to prove we are right, we fail to see the other individuals point or even acknowledge their feelings. After this course I know that I always need to take accountability for my part be it right or wrong.

The course appealed to me because conflict, for me, especially in my marriage, is often a way one street that leads to nowhere. Hearing the "broken record" over and over, wondering why are we here again and why can we not resolve this is frustrating, lonely and at times hopeless. Esther brings her deep understanding of relationships and human nature along with her passion and warmth to really dig down past the repeated patterns and open up a more holistic view of why we fight, why conflict plays out with the same responses over and over again and how we can break the cycle. I am glad that I took some quiet time to complete the workbook as it helped me to integrate Esther's teachings on a more personal level and allowed me to open up mine and my partner's patterns of conflict. For me, if I can see one thing that will change in my personal relationship since completing the course, it is to step back and observe with kindness my partner's responses and relax my defensiveness. This course brings a rich and sophisticated intelligence to love and relationships.

I came to this course to improve how I communicate with my husband and closed loved ones. This course has given me useful tools which I've already started to utilize in my daily life! I'm striving to be more curious, reflective and less reactionary and triggered openly. Thank you, Esther!

As always, mind blown! I finished all sessions in one day. I could not stop. And then talked to my partner about it until 4 AM. we did the work sheet together. We were able to expand our vocabulary when it comes to conflict and that gave us so much power. To know what you were feeling and then to accurately label it and then to articulate it confidently to your partner, while in conflict…. I feel is real communication and connection. Thank you Esther for the knowledge!

Conflict is a part of life that I would love to be better at. Conflict and confrontation turned into connection, honestly, sounds like a dream come true. I will always jump on an opportunity to connect with the people I love better and I know I can do a better job especially around conflict. I valued putting words to the underlying reasons for an argument; power, trust, value. It is helpful for me to have simplifying words to think through how I am feeling or how my partner may be feeling. "Explaining yourself through your impact not your intention" - My partner and I often get into cycles of trying over and over to explain our way through our intention when the impact is the more important aspect. This was an important piece for me to hear. The module on deescalating is also so helpful.

Wow! What a course. Concise, educational and I had to laugh a few times. Bringing context and light and fun to the topic of conflict. Feeling rather conflict avoidant, I wanted to take the course to get further insights into the dynamics of conflict and how to navigate it better and feeling with more grounding. What stood out to me the most were the 3 hidden dimensions of power, trust and value that cause conflicts, how to identify them and then look to reconcile, as well as the analogy of river, kettle or bird when it comes to conflict resolution. Lots of prompts and examples of how conflicts can go, the different dynamics is what made this course very approachable and I could identify myself in different scenarios while also learning vocabulary or prompts to use at my conflicts to come. Thank you so much. I'm looking forward to practicing.

I thought that in my relationship my partner and I were fairly good about how we argued... but this course has given me so much more insight not only into myself but also into my partner and how they perceive conflict. It's helped me understand my partner and where they are coming from, and helped us develop strategies to actually learn from the conflict and turn it into something productive. This course can even extend into how we communicate in conflict with friends, family, coworkers, etc.

A great launch pad from which to consider your style of fighting, understand what you’re really fighting about, and how to make meaningful apologies and effective repairs. Esther’s energy, creativity and ability to to build containment and give context for something so messy as conflict was steadying, reassuring and gave me hope that I can learn how to fight better. My only complaint is that I would have loved more examples of how to identify what you’re really fighting about and more examples of how to map your fights. I loved the content and hope there will be more to come on this topic. Thank goodness for Esther Perel!

After initially discovering Esther Perel through her books, I have followed her work on social media, her podcast, bought her game (my friends call it "The Feelings Game"), and most recently was interested in taking her course on Turning Conflict Into Connection. I was hoping to gain some new knowledge about how to be a little lighter with the fighter in me and to learn a few tools on how to minimize and resolve conflict. A great example that I used recently was to lay on the floor - as mammals we cannot fight with our backs on the ground. This helped me regulate and allowed me to breathe and then laugh about why I was on the floor- thus turning an elevated situation into a more grounded and connected conversation. One thing that I will use moving forward is the phrase, "Let me tell you how I came to this reaction" in order to explain my place/feelings - instead of trying to blame or feel more powerful. Truly taking ownership. Thank you to Esther Perel and her team. Your work matters more than ever!

Esther Perel's course on conflict resolution in relationships has completely changed my perspective on arguments. Her valuable insights and practical tips have helped me handle conflicts responsibly. I appreciate the focus on understanding and growth rather than avoidance. In summary, it's a valuable investment in my personal growth and relationship. Highly recommended

I am a couples counselor in Germany and I have been inspired by Esther's work for a long time. It brings such incredible value to listen to her podcasts, Ted Talks, youtube videos and all the other great formats she is offering. I used the "turning conflict into connection" seminar as a training for my work and of course I do use it for getting better in the relationship with my husband ;-) It is an excellent development that psychotherapists share lots of their wisdom to the public these days (in my perception Esther was one of the first who did!) thus making relationships in general a little bit better. I came across the "hidden dimensions" various times in Esther's work but in this seminar it became so much clearer with all the good examples. Also the chapter of "good apologies" is so helpful. Sometimes I wished I had known as much as I do now about relationships a few decades ago (I am 56 yo, working as a couples counselor since 2017). But the good news is that my job in HR for 15 years, my two adult kids and my 25-years marriage are a brilliant resource for what I am doing ;-)